Saturday, May 29, 2010

INGAT SENANG NAK JADI CHONG WEI...

wesak day (28-may) we adik bradik mmg plan tak balik kg...sbb tak sanggup nak redah jam even kg kita org tak ler jauh mana hehehe...so dtg ler idea bernas my sis utk wat activity men badminton btwn us on Friday nite...adam bis taekwondo kol 10pm...dgn semangat yg bkobar2 ala2 atlet gitu...trus kita org zassss ke wangsa maju...

tak nk ngalah tu booking court smpi 2hrs (10.30pm-12.30am)...ha mik ko tak agak2 tu nk men...apa2 pon kita org enjoy tat nite...pastu lepak kt kedai mkn ala2 sahur gitu...lebey kurang 3am memasing cari ler jln pulang...hahahhaha

last bt not least...layan ler gambo2 yg ai smpt snap...2jam ai dok gelak smpi kering gusi nengok aksi ala2 chong wei dr mnantu2...anak2...& cucu2 tn hj ramli kita ini...baru dorang tau ingat snang ke nk jd cam chong wei...weiii!!!

Friday, May 28, 2010

TEACHING CHILDREN 2 BEHAVE APPROPRIATELY...

"teaching children discipline requires that u control yr impulses"

Most parents don't want to shame, punish/humiliate their children, but they're not sure what to do to help them behave properly. Although behavior modification is hotly debated among experts, most agree that children need clearly defined limits. As a parent who wants to raise your child to get along with others, how do you define limits & what should you do when rules are broken? Below are 3 important tips...

Child Behavior Management Tips
1) First & foremost if u expect children to behave & follow rules, make sure they know what they are & understand why they're in place. Clarity is the essence of child behavior management which means the rules must be few, simple & clear.

For instance, "We do not hit others" / "We do not draw on walls". When yr child disobeys a rule, be gentle, but firmly repeat the rule "We do not hit others" & give a reminder about the reason why.

For instance, "We use our words to tell others how we feel/what we need/want, rather than hitting them". Rule with reason & your child will act with integrity & strength.

2) Child behavior modification strategies should be employed when a child needs to change a behavior that hurts/endangers others/their property. Take this seriously because behavior that is threatening to others does not just go away. Rather than resorting to blame, shame/punishment, appeal to yr child's sense of compassion & do it in a way that is appropriate to yr child's level of development. Considering a child's level of development is paramount to effective child behavior management.

To do this, use story as a tool & take the scenario & turn it around.

For instance, let's say that your child grabbed away another child's toy on the playground. Tell your child a simple "what if" story that makes her the victim of this same/a similar aggression. Afterwards, ask her how she thinks it must feel to be playing with a toy when another child grabs it away. Now make the association to the act she just committed by asking her how the other child must have felt.

Next, ask her how she can make things right with the other child. This is how you teach compassion—u ask yr child to imagine herself in another person's shoes. Although this takes more time than yelling at yr child/punishing her, it will teach yr child to consider other people's feelings & respect their limits before she acts.

3) Child behavior management can be even more challenging when yr child is moody. Like adults, children have mood swings & may have periods when they're feeling down & it is difficult for them to control their impulses. Since this provides the impetus for them to act out, make sure yr child has the essential for good behavior: healthy food, plenty of sleep & a secure relationship with u.

If she has a period in which she seems to have days where she's feeling mad/sad, help her learn how to express & release those feelings. Although children should be encouraged to express verbally what is bothering them, for some kids, physical activity can jump start the process.

Sometimes, a series of punches to a pillow/punching bag will create the physical release necessary to let the words come out. Other times, physical expression will be enough. If u notice that yr child seems particularly moody, step up the time u spend together & also increase her level of physical activity by going on more walks, bike rides/trips to the playground. Get her out in the sunshine & help her feel close to u. Often, this is enough to neutralize a mood. Helping yr child to find positive outlets for her feelings will help her to act from a secure, happy & healthy base.
~family matters parenting magazine~


...consider that teaching children discipline requires that u control yr impulses...in fact, it may be better not 2 use d words child behavior mgmt at all...instead, focus on teaching yr child d skills she/he needs 2 learn 2 get along with others in order 2 thrive in this world...

Sunday, May 9, 2010

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY...


Mother’s day is a special day when u admire & revere yr mom 4 d efforts & sacrifices she makes 2 b a dedicated mom...it is an occasion 2 honor each family’s mother & 2 express love & respect 4 all she has done 4 us unconditionally over d years...moms in broad terms r simple strict, traditional, soft, fashionable & cool at an individual level...kids always go famously with their mothers...they bcome d center of attraction 4 d kids...everything they do/speak holds a tremendous importance in d eyes of a child...hence, 4 every child his mommy is d BEST...she is d celebrity in her own right...though all kids love their mothers, often they may not express it...hence, mother’s day is an occasion 2 give tribute 2 d status of motherhood...

did u know that it's Beautiful Women Month?


~~ Beauty of a Woman ~~

d beauty of a woman is not in d clothes she wears,
d figure she carries, or d way she combs her hair.
d beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes,
bcause that is d doorway 2 her heart,
d place where love resides.
d beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,
but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
it is the caring that she lovingly gives,
d passion that she shows.
d beauty of a woman
with time, only grows...




"MOTHER IS D NAME OF GOD ON D LIPS & HEARTS OF ALL D CHILDREN"

IRON MAN 2...

this movie was made for kids, seriously...this movie was so soooo good...i just watched it yesterday with my son at TGV Wangsa Walk...it was such a good movie...best one yet...